A poem to think about

Here's a poem I found that I'm sure all users of this site can identify with.

Please Listen.

When I ask you to listen to me
and you start giving advice you have
not done what I asked.

When I ask you to listen to me
and you begin to tell me why I
shouldn't feel that way you are
trampling on my feelings.

When I ask you to listen to me
and you feel you have to do something
to solve my problems you have failed me,
strange as it may seem.

When you do something for me that I
can and need to do for myself,
you contribute to my fear and weakness.

So,
please listen and just hear me,
and, if you want to talk,
wait a minute for your turn:and I will listen to you.
Anonymous.

Hello Julie,

Is a nice poem and meaningful.

How have you been lately? I have noticed you had not been on here too much lately.

Peter.

Hello Peter,

I'm doing ok thanks. Hope you are too.

Juli.

Hi Juli

Thanks for the poem. I'm going to share it with my family, its so hard for them to understand that sometimes I just need to talk without expecting anything from them. PTSD is very frustrating to all involved.

Hope you're doing well.

Rosie x

Hello Rosie,

I know exactly what you mean. Nothing drives me to distraction like someone trying to take over and 'do' something, when all we want is someone to tell how we are feeling. I suppose because they don't understand what's going on, they're doing the best they can, they don't like seeing us like this, but I wish they wouldn't.
I often think that this site is the only place I have where people try to understand and don't judge at all.

I'm sort of doing ok, I hope things are progressing for you too.

Take care,


Juli xx

Hello Julie,

I hope you are ok. I recently received a phone call and am expecting a letter to confirm date for a counciling session. I am however annoyed that the caller asked me to confirm that I "still needed to see some one", shame they were not available closer to the event!

Whilst I feel YOU, and being on this site has been more benneficial to me than anything else, I am determined to get that session just so I can report back to you people just to share my experience and tell you what happens and what is said.

Further to my updates- I have experienced that new phobia and as such been interviewed for a new job that will entail me traveling for an hour and a quarter to a new job each morning. This should stop the triggers each morning and hopefully a new horizon awaits me.

Sorry should have said, I got that new job!

Peter,

Many congratulations on your new job, I hope things go well for you.
Take care,
Juli.

HI Julie,

Thanks for your kind words.

I went to my doctor today and updated her on several issues and in fact told her I was not happy with the bloke who has phoned me twice to arrange a counciling session.

1st call- He said I had missed an opointment! Which was a load of rubbish as no one told me about any oppintment! At the end of the conversation he said "just forget it!- How discusting is that?

2nd call about 4 days later- He then said "do you want to see someone or not?"!

I told my doctor who ever he is, is a very rude person. She advised me to ask for his contact number as when he calls his number is withheld!

When I do go, I am gonner record the event, if he remains rude to me I will report him!

For the record if anyone is wondering, no! I am not feeling paranoid, but it concerns me that people like that speak down to people like us. My doctor was surprised when I told her I had got a new job that entailed an hour and quarter commute each way each day instead of a 15 minute walk, so I told her of my phobia that developed and how it affected me, triggering me etc.

Mt doctor is being great, she insists that I go for this session as she stated " things could change later on even though I feel ok right now!,

I am moving on from 90% feeling better to about 92% at the moment. There are no more nightmares, or flashbacks and I feel ok about having to go to court-should I be asked to.

It has been a few months since the event so time for me is being a healer.